When is the Best Time to get Divorced?
As the holidays approach, filing for divorce in Charlotte drops off significantly. If you think about it, that makes sense. No one wants to start the process of ending a marriage right before Thanksgiving or Christmas. The timing of the first steps of separation often follows seasonal trends.
One would be remiss in failing to acknowledge another extremely important point: While divorce can be an emotional affair for parents in even the best of circumstances, ending a marriage can prove a trying time for a young, developing mind.
“Despite how miserable family life may be, parents gravitate to ‘giving the kids one more Thanksgiving or Christmas.’ That’s OK, if anything it shows how much parents love and care about their children and their feelings.”
– Bill Powers
Indeed, formal separation, and learning to live with the “new normal” home life, visitation, and child custody may necessitate counseling and special care in the timing of things.
That’s why the NC family law in Chapter 50-13.2 is written to ensure the welfare of minor children and judges are charged with the duty to make legal rulings consistent with what is in the child’s best interests.When is the Best Time to Get Divorced?
There really isn’t a “normal” or “best” time to get divorced. There are so many variables involved in ending a marriage, how and when to move forward is largely case-specific and a matter of personal preference.
Each divorce, just like each individual client, is unique. What is important to you may be of little value or concern to someone else going through a marital breakup. Ending marriage may be amicable and a good candidate for collaborative law.
There are other instances where everyone involved knows, from the outset, it’s going to be an emotional, ugly experience. In instances with Domestic Violence or a cheating spouse, the parties may be angry and therefore more subject to making questionable choices.
“The best divorce lawyers I know are extremely careful to consider the nature and circumstances of the marriage, doing what they can to anticipate potential problem areas. Contrary to what many clients may believe going in, divorce rarely is a simple thing. When reality sets in, when people realize, ‘This is going to happen,’ perspectives can change very quickly, as can the motivations of the litigants.”
– Bill Powers, Charlotte Divorce Attorney
Still, while many may choose to “get through the holidays” before moving forward, they may not realize by putting things off until after Christmas or New Years or summer vacation, may actually be pushing things back for much longer than anticipated.
It makes sense not to separate during certain seasons. You may not even want to think about it until later. Again, as divorce lawyers, we understand how hard this life-changing decision may be for you. It’s normal and frankly to proceed with care and caution.What Time of Year Do Most People Get Divorced?
“Getting divorced” requires more than a simple filing of paperwork and ending things. In North Carolina, there must be 12 months of legal separation before a divorce can be granted. As such, you may be surprised if you call after a major holiday and find it hard to schedule a time to meet with a Charlotte divorce attorney. Just like you, other people in Charlotte may wait to call a lawyer and, just like you, they start calling after the holiday or particular season.
While you may wish to wait until taking formal steps to separate, it makes to at least prepare for separation and divorce. It’s a good idea to plan, to get answers to your legal questions, and perhaps think about what you want to do.
“In fact, you may be surprised by the idea that the holiday seasons are a great time to set an appointment, sit down and talk with one of our divorce lawyers.”
– Bill Powers
Divorce requires preparation, the collection of financial records, and a firm understanding of your legal rights. Call today to schedule a Confidential Consultation: 704-342-4357.